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“New” New Year’s Traditions


With winter’s shorter days and holiday excesses comes that post-holiday self-analysis and introspection which inevitably ends in New Year’s Resolutions. This year I am going to start a couple new New Year’s traditions with my family. In addition to setting resolutions, I will ask each person to write down the things they want to stop doing. For example, instead of simply setting the resolution of exercising four times a week, one might write “making excuses” on a separate piece of paper. They can share the things they write or keep them private. On New Year’s Eve we will then throw the “bad” things we want to get rid of (like that tendency to make excuses not to exercise) into a burning fireplace or somehow ceremoniously “banish” those unwanted things. The other thing I want to do is to acknowledge the things that I did do successfully and to recognize the same in others, especially my children. Victories need to be celebrated and acknowledged to really feel like victories.

As you evaluate what it is you would like to achieve or change in 2013, take a moment to identify the root of the thing you would like to change as well as what you do not want to change and feel good about. Perhaps it was accomplishing your resolutions. Perhaps it was dealing with a challenge or set back well. Do the same for your children. A word or two of recognition will help your child want to continue on the path of positive growth.

Perhaps with a bit of luck and recognition, next year there may be even more victories to celebrate.

[AUTHOR: Hilary Doubleday]

December 28, 2012

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